I'm Over it: Single in the City

I'm Over it: Single in the City

Impersonal Personals Seek Help

If this were 1992 and I was on the dating scene, would I submit a Personal to a newspaper? If I was in college in 1979, would I meet a guy in the local college bar, share a beer, and then we would end up happily ever after? If I was a debutante in 1944, would I marry the doctor my father introduced me to and just assume my life would be complete? Dating in 2008 is hard. I wouldn't want a Personal, a fraternity bar guy, or a doctor my dad knows.....but I'm running out of ideas.

David Wygant, the dating expert, has an interesting blog. He helps men gain confidence, talk to women, and offers advice as to where they can meet a potential girlfriend. Vice versa for women. Every woman knows what it's like to be in a bar, bookstore, party, WHEREVER, and see someone that interests you, but aren't sure if you can go up to them or not. Do they have a girlfriend? Do they have a boyfriend? [that one is hard to tell] Do they find me attractive? Would I make a total fool out of myself if I went up to him? Apparently, the same thing is going through the minds of men.

A few months ago I did the unthinkable....completely uncharictaristic of me, and asked a guy from the gym out. We did hit it off, and then it fizzled out quickly when I realized we weren't a good match. Either way, I did something that I wouldn't normally do - and before I did it I accepted the fact that it could go either way -->he could be into me and he could not be into me. Dealing with the consequences was something I was simply prepared for.

David Wygant posted a blog recently that is so helpful and I think that everyone should read it. He titled it "A Plea To All The Women: Please Help The Guys Out!" - I enjoyed it, and hopefully you will too. http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/a-plea-to-all-the-women-please-help-the-guys-out/

Personals are impersonal, and I would like to take Wygant's advice and meet someone face to face....and hit it off. But if I were to write a personal, perhaps this is what it would say:

SWF seeks SWM with great sense of humor who is caring, thoughtful, and easy going. Must be a successful, driven, and grounded individual. Intellectually curious, love your family and friends, Equally comfortable at a black tie reception as you are at a local bar. Love to travel stay active.

Oh my, I just described the way I view myself - I'm not looking for someone exactly like me, I believe that opposites attract. But the basics are important. So men, start reading Wygant's blog....women, start taking Wygants advice, and maybe our two worlds can intertwine.

Game Day

E-A-G-L-E-S EAGLES! I'm looking forward to another Bird season. Being an Eagles fan in DC is a challenge - Redskins fans don't like us too much. There's a bar in Georgetown, Rhino, that is the "Philly" bar of DC. On game day you can go into Rhino and see Eagles shirts everywhere - it's a welcoming site.

Tonight, at 8:30, I will be there.....proudly in my green and black....to watch the Birds fly with some lovely PA born friends [and non-PA - thanks Pam:)].

A pitcher of beer, a plate of wings, a few cheers - let's bring in a win!

9/11

Warm thoughts and wishes go out today to all of our troops in the Middle East.

Warm thoughts and wishes go out today to all of those families who lost a loved one on 9/11/01

Warm thoughts and wishes go out today to my fantastic friend Carissa, for today is her birthday and quite possibly the day that her baby will be born.

Warm thoughts and wishes go out today to my hilarious and outrageous friend Jenn, for today she leaves our lovely town of D.C. and heads to the frozen tundra aka Ithaca, NY for a new job. You will be missed - who will I vent to each morning about my crazy life??!!!?

I Heart Autumn

It's the same every year - I heart autumn! My excitement builds and builds without fail each August until the month of September arrives. The fall season is stretched over three wonderful months where the weather is perfect and there's a certain charm around town.

Things about autumn that I love......

dark nail polish

pumpkin spice and harvest candles

Halloween themed movies

pumpkin pie

leaves changing colors

the smell of the season

light sweaters with jeans

jack-o-lanterns

apple crisp

Thanksgiving

walks along the water

heading out for the night without sweating the makeup off before hitting the dance floor

cool air to breathe in

Welcome autumn! I've been waiting all year for you!

Birthday flavor

Last night I met up with a few of my lovely friends for a belated birthday dinner. We are the new generation of power women in DC, which makes it difficult to schedule time together. Typically, I schedule things at least a month out - working and socializing is sure to jam any DC woman's calendar!

We went to one of my favorites spots, Mezza Luna, and spent some quality time catching up. I'm so amazed with my brilliant friends - our conversation went from politics [DNC, RNC, and the campaign strategies] to a destination wedding that's being planned, to grad school, to new living arrangements, to fashion, and finally to our friend who is about to become a mom. Like I said, we are power women to get it all talked about over the course of dinner.

Clutter in my life

Cluter, clutter, clutter. Right now my life is cluttered by things. Friend's getting married, family parties, dental visits, moving apartments, and work. Work, work, work. Clutter, clutter, clutter. The parties, get togethers and whatnot are fabulous to go to of course, it just takes a toll. The summer is gone and I feel like I haven't done anything for myself [other than Mexico which resulted in E.Coil].

The majority of June was spent in Kentucky for a work project. July was spent entirely out of town....wedding, bachelorette party, trip to Mexico, graduation party. August started off with two weddings followed by intense packing for the move, and then finally the actual move. I moved from a crap apartment to a 5 star condo. Excited? Yes. Stressed? Naturally. Lately I've had so much on my mind that my dreams at night are getting a bit out of control. Oh, and let's not forget the break off I just did with the guy who was bad for me. Yes, I'm feeling a bit stressed and severely missing the careless summers I knew not to long ago. Even when living in NYC, my weekends were spent on the Long Island beaches or at my relatives house in Connecticut. Those were wonderful weekends.

I hate to accept the idea that my summers will be like this forever - I need to start doing more things for myself, stress a little less, and have a ball.

One fabulously wonderful thing about summer ending is the start of the Eagles season. You can be sure that I will be hitting up Rhino bar in Georgetown as often as possible to catch my beloved Birds kick some butt. Ditto to the Broad Street Bullies.