Tuesday, July 31, 2007

Mr. Right Now

Hello, my name is Kate and I'm a commitment phobic. Or, at least I was. My attitude toward relationships has changed and I no longer fear the idea of committing to one person. Relationships are a fickle thing though. Of all the dating categories, I must say that my best friend's category tops the list. A serial monogamist with a commitment phobia. How scandalous is that?

My friend *Chloe has never had a one night stand, never gone on 3 first dates in a week, and never had a fling. She remains in long term relationships, but can't help wondering what else is out there. What if she misses a great opportunity with Mr. Right because she's in a relationship with Mr. Right Now? I guess that's the chance you take when you commit to someone - or pretend to commit.

The best relationship I personally ever had was with New York. New York never made me feel lonely, was available 24/7, constantly showered me with gifts of entertainment, discounts, culture and drinks. I gave that big, beautiful city my whole heart. The same heart that broke when we parted ways. No man could ever live up to the expectations that New York set....I suppose I'll have to learn to love again....in a different way.

When all is said and done, I don't think there really is a Mr. Right. Everyone is a Mr. Right Now, and he can become whoever we want him to be...a New York, a fling, a forever. It's not a change in person, it's a change in heart.

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